When it comes to being a stay-at-home mom it’s not all rainbows and butterflies and afternoon naps on the grass.
It’s challenging work, but rewarding too. Here are some common misconceptions.
1. You’re on your own with no support.
Just because you are a stay-at-home mom doesn’t mean you have to go it alone. Family and friends can support you. Your partner could be in and out during the day depending on their work situation. There are online groups and networks that you can participate in. Being a stay-at-home mom doesn’t mean you have to resign yourself to no adult communication.
2. You get to chill all day.
Being a stay-at-home mom is hard work. You are managing a schedule for your children, meal-planning, cooking, cleaning, shopping, and maybe even managing the finances. There’s also a little one who demands your attention, whether they want to play with you or you just need to keep an eye on them so they don’t climb the furniture.
There may be days that you stay in your pajamas and that’s ok. That does not mean that you go through each day with no purpose. Taking care of children and the household is a high calling.
3. You can’t have an income.
Being a stay-at-home mom does not automatically equal no income. Many stay-at-home moms work online blogging, running an Etsy shop, and even coaching and consulting clients. There are all sorts of ways you can bring in additional income while at home with your children.
4. Anyone can do it.
The stay-at-home mom life is not a path every woman will choose. Some women need and crave the outside life and career. Others find their greatest purpose at home and love it. Unfortunately, some don’t even have a choice – it may not be financially feasible for the family.
If you absolutely want to be at stay-at-home mom do whatever you can to make it happen!
5. It’s Boring!
Every day can present something new with you and your kids. You will have new challenges in their growth and development. You can also use this time to work on yourself and your own dreams when the children are occupied and napping. It can get boring if you let it, but it doesn’t have to be. Come up with new activities and practice being truly present.
6. You don’t know who you are.
When people want to know about you they ask, “What do you do?” Your first thoughts as a stay-at-home mom may be to say, “I clean up spit-up all day,” but you are so much more than that. You are a rockstar preparing a little human for the world. You are the strongest love, greatest strength, and most dependable safe haven your child will ever know. That is a meaningful and beautiful thing.
Learn to redefine yourself based on something other than a job title. If you want something to do outside the home, you could get out and volunteer with your little ones in tow.
7. You have to do without.
There may be some truth to this if you are living on one income, but if you have the savings or some additional income you are absolutely worth a splurge here and there. Even if you can’t buy an expensive bottle of wine or get a full manicure and pedicure anymore, you can still splurge on a new nail color and a less expensive, just as tasty, treat.
8. You are frumpy.
Not every stay-at-home mom stays in sweats, gains weight, and stops caring for herself physically. You can still get in a morning walk, a shower, and maybe a hair style. If you’re too exhausted on a given day to do any of those things, who cares? That doesn’t mean you are frumpy and undesirable. It just means you know where to put your priorities right now and your biggest priority is your little one. Your baby will not likely remember if you looked like a celebrity, but will remember all the love you gave.
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Are there any other misconceptions that you’ve heard as a stay-at-home mom?\
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